Thanks for the question, and while this is a first, I would say use as much water as you can hold, and keep going until the water runs out clear and clean. The average rectum is about 7-8 inches long before the first bend. If you are going to play deep, then cleaning beyond the bend is needed. Typically in the beginning you will not be cleaning into the colon, but if you want to then you need to use your internal rectal muscles and anal muscles to squeeze and hold during the cramps while forcing more water past the bend into the descending colon. I use warm water and about 3-4 water bottles in all - fill and purge, then repeat.
Once your clean, wait several hours to play. This allows your body to readjust and self lubricate. Takes planning but is worth the wait. As for the comfort and or pain, sounds like you are going too big too soon. As they say, “No Pain, No Gain”, but in anal explorations, pain can be bad so you have to be the judge of your discomfort. I can say this though, relaxing before you start is important, push out like you have to go to the bathroom when you want to open up more, and try poppers as an adjunct to safe play - they work by relaxing muscles when you can’t, and can at times help you get past a point that relaxation can’t.
Enjoy the fullness and stretch… that’s part of the joy of this kind of sexual experimentation.
Watching him cum
Thanks for the question, and as a general rule, usually my fiance likes to dress up. That being said, if after making love she wants to take my ass, she will just grab one and put it on, naked and covered in sweat. I like her both ways… but the role play element is heightened when she initiates the play and comes in wearing some sexy outfit and then straps up!
As for me, I like to be naked best, although we have added a couple fun and exotic outfits including leather and ass-less stuff, and she loves me in the white jock with the black lights on, but that’s a whole other story. Regardless of my attire, at some point my cock gets all the attention I crave, and then some. Being naked is completely letting go, exposed and vulnerable.
Hope that answers your question, Enjoy.
Thanks for the followup, and check my just published earlier response. Here is a toy that might be just what you need for deeper prostate milking play. I used one early on and it is good for ease and speed for feedback on what works and what is less than ideal.
Thanks for the question. Read some of my other answers on this, but generally I have found that unless you are willing to please your woman with whatever she wants, and you are open and honest with each other about your desires, then you probably will stumble around a while until to find the right person, or become the right person.
The risks are worth the rewards, so keep taking the risk.
Thanks for the question. And yes… abstaining from sex for a few days or longer will allow for more fluid to be milked. Also drink lots of water and eat healthy foods. And teasing or edging will force the body into a build up state that will reap huge flow so long as you then play within say 24 hours. I have edged and played without release for days with tantra, having tons of orgasms just not ejaculating. When the ejaculation comes, it is amazing both in the flow and power of the release.
Yes. Your prostate will slightly engorge, and leaking is the result. You can feel the difference.
Hope this helps, and enjoy the next session!
Thanks for the question. Congrats on the years of play experience, so here are some tips for fine tuning your milking efforts. First, give yourself enough time, free and easy, uninterrupted erotic play time. Too many failures occur due to little time that is rushed. If you only have 5-10 minutes and someone could pop in any second, forget it.
Minimum time to play is 30 min, not including set up and put away. That means an hour, cause you need lube, toys, towels, porn, whatever… set the mood like you are planning for a date to sleep over. Get yourself a little worked up and hard before, just be in the moment. Then you can start to play with your prostate. I have found the greatest flow takes at least 15-20 minutes of play before it really gets going. And use a toy that is way too long, or so you would think. This is because you want to go deeper, beyond your prostate, so that you can bring the toys pressure to bear at the top of the prostate and then work it down the center of your prostate towards your cock. This is a repetitive motion that will draw the prostatic fluid out of your prostate to the urethra.
If you have a cock ring on, the flow will be diminished if non-existent. Your choice, because once you remove the cock ring the flow will seep out for 10-15 minutes after.
All kinds of toys work, but I have found the longer wand-type skinny hard plastic vibrators work great for learning what feels good. Usually they have a bulb at the tip, and it is angled slightly for clitoral play.
Anyway, hope this helps, and Enjoy!
Thanks for the kudo’s (Correct spelling now… I looked it up!) and question! My first intro to anal pleasure was by accident really. I was 7 years old, sick and our family doctor made a house call. Seriously… house call! With a gloved and lubed pinkie finger he entered my ass and loosened me up so I would be able to go to the bathroom. The wonderful side effect of this was that I got an instant erection, which felt good I can assure you, but was rather embarrassing. I did not understand any of the cause and effect but remembered and loved the sensation, thus as I grew up, I would play with my asshole. First with my own fingers, and then other things. And here we are.
My fiance was definitely into anal play before we met. We quickly discovered out mutual appreciation for each others butt’s, and it has been one wild exploration after the next. She had no experience fisting, but knew what it was, and eagerly took the lead. She loves the exhilaration, the element of control and complete trust, and the role playing and kinky aspect, and when I am in the throws of ecstasy, she gets off on the gift she is giving me!
And you are right in that a majority of women are either dripping in social norms or unable to truly let go and play without fear of reprisal. As I have stated before the anus, and all the parts thereof are common between both sexes, and the exploration of this between partners is a most amazing opportunity once both are open to playing with their buttholes!
Love your blog. Keep it up!